He’s Not “Just a Bad Texter”

In this solo episode of Call Her Daddy, Alex Cooper addresses one of the most common relationship anxieties plaguing modern dating: the myth that a bad texter is inherently uninterested. This episode dives deep into why we've created narratives around texting habits and how those narratives can sabotage potentially great connections. Alex explores the psychology behind texting behavior, noting that some people are simply not phone people. Whether due to generational differences, neurodivergence, ADHD, or just personality type, not everyone communicates the same way through text. The host emphasizes that equating texting frequency with level of care is a dangerous assumption that needs to be dismantled in dating culture. Throughout the episode, Alex discusses how anxiety manifests in dating patterns. Many listeners relate to obsessively analyzing text response times, message length, and emoji usage, creating entire narratives about what these things mean. She breaks down why this behavior is counterproductive and often self-sabotaging. A man who takes two hours to text back isn't necessarily losing interest; he might be at work, in the gym, or simply not glued to his phone. Alex challenges the toxic dating culture narrative that equates constant texting with genuine interest and investment. The episode tackles the generational divide in communication styles. Younger generations grew up with constant connectivity and expect rapid responses, while older generations view texting as a convenient tool, not a primary form of communication. Understanding these differences is crucial in dating someone whose texting style differs from your own. Alex discusses the importance of observing someone's actions in real life rather than analyzing their digital footprint. If someone shows up for you consistently, makes time to see you, remembers details you've shared, and prioritizes you when you're together, their texting style becomes almost irrelevant. These actions reveal true interest far better than a string of emojis or quick replies ever could. The host also explores how bringing up the texting issue directly can improve relationships. Having an honest conversation about communication preferences and expectations takes the mystery out of message frequency and prevents unnecessary anxiety. Some people need reassurance that less frequent texting doesn't mean decreased feelings. By normalizing different communication styles, couples can move past this common source of conflict. Alex wraps up by empowering listeners to recognize when they're creating stories about someone based on limited texting evidence. Instead of writing someone off, consider whether their actions align with their words. A genuinely interested person will find ways to show you, even if their texting game needs work. This episode serves as a reality check for anyone who has ever spiraled over read receipts or delayed responses.